An Open Letter to My Ex’s New Girlfriend: A Mother’s Perspective

A heartfelt message - an honest perspective on co-parenting when new partners are involved.

Dear [New Girlfriend’s Name],

This letter to you, my ex’s new girlfriend, comes from a place of honesty and vulnerability.don’t know you well, but I know my children will. You’ll become part of their world, and because of that, you’ll be part of mine—whether we like it or not.

I want you to know this: they are my everything. They are the center of my universe. I’m asking you—no, trusting you—to treat them with the same care and respect you’d want for your own.

Please understand, this is hard for me. It’s not about jealousy or control. It’s about protecting my children’s hearts. They’ve already endured a big change, and they need stability, not confusion.

Be kind to them. Respect the bond they have with both of their parents. Never try to take my place in their lives, and I will respect the relationship you’re building with them.

I hope you and my ex have something real and lasting. If you do, that will be good for my kids—they deserve to see healthy relationships. If you don’t, please keep your time with them minimal and avoid leaving them with memories of yet another goodbye.

I’m not your enemy, and you’re not mine. We’re both women who care about the same children, even if our roles are different. For that reason, I hope we can navigate this with grace.

Sincerely, [Your Name]