The most expensive mistake in divorce isn’t about who keeps what — it’s letting conflict lead the first conversations. When things escalate, costs rise fast, especially since most judges require mediation before trial, meaning you may pay for attorneys and a mediator. Starting with mediation protects your finances, reduces stress, and helps you move forward with clarity and respect.

When it comes to divorce, many people approach it like a chess match — determined to outmaneuver and ‘win’ at all costs. But in family matters, a win-lose mindset often leaves everyone worse off, especially the kids. This blog unpacks the myth of ‘winning’ your divorce, what you should really aim for, and how mediation helps everyone move forward with dignity — and a plan that works.